Believe you can… and you are halfway there. ~ Theodore Roosevelt

In a follow-up, to last week’s blog on self-judgment, I cannot stress enough how just the awareness of this habit can be the antidote to change. The process of seeing the judgment is a start.

How successful was this for you? Were you able to soften or release any judgments?

Yet for some of us, we need more. It is still hard to give yourself credit, to see how far you have come. Anything less than perfect is seen as a failure. When starting something new, we expect to be an expert right out of the gate. While I could talk for hours about perfectionism, impractical expectation, and unrealistic timelines, I am going to skip ahead and invite you to take on the idea of a growth mindset.

With a growth mindset, you will allow yourself to see that you did your best, not that it had to be your best. And in that, you can acknowledge that it’s not your forever best.

Growth Mindset

  • Failure is a growth opportunity
  • Challenges help me grow
  • I can learn to do anything I want
  • My effort & attitude help determine my abilities
  • Feedback is constructive
  • I am inspired by others success
  • I like to try new things

Fixed Mindset

  • Failure is the limit of my abilities
  • I’m either good at it or I’m not
  • My abilities are unchanging
  • I can either do it or I can’t
  • My potential is predetermined
  • Feedback & criticism are personal
  • I stick to what I know
  • When I’m frustrated, I give up


One easy, exercise to start growing your “growth mindset” is to add “yet” to the end of your defeated thoughts.

I’m not good at that, yet!

I can’t do that, yet!

I don’t know how to, yet!

I don’t have a business, yet!

I am not organized, yet!

and on, and on, and on…


Try this on! Look at how your previous thought of what was the ” Truth,” can now be open to adding more to the story.

Still struggling? Need help working on a growth mindset?  Let’s Chat!


P.S. If you didn’t catch last week’s post, I invite you to click the link to read it:  Show Your Compassion